Fledge-Brenda Yoder
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here is another author friend of mine who will inspire and encourage you while you cope and struggle with the grief of letting go of your kids while they leave the nest. Go to college or graduate high school.

That's what my hubby's kids have done and as a step mom it not easy letting go. Looking back of all of the good times we have had together and enjoying them as young adults who are making their own choices and mistakes out in the real world. Reading Fledge was like having a friend sit next to me on the couch holding my hand as I experienced feelings I didn't realize I was having and Brenda puts into exact wording how I have felt during this experience. There is only Adam youngest still at home with us and Bella is 11 she is next to leave the nest in a dozen more years because of her special needs I am sure she will be with us just a little longer then the others have been.  An easy to read and understand book that addresses the topic we don't want to talk about with our friends because it's a tough topic to talk about. I urge all of my mommy friends to buy this book and a copy for your friends too. It makes a perfect graduation gift for any parent.

link here below

https://brendayoder.com/about-brenda-2/

Fledge Review

A heartfelt book of one moms experience as she journey though grief while her kids grow up and move on their own.

A story about hanging on and letting go that struggle is so common but we don't often get to talk about it with our friends as we each experience this at different stages of our own life with our kids.

Myself I struggled reading chapter 4 and 5 define your strategist I didn't know what to do and the help of Fledge I know I am on the right path. A place to call home had me in tears. I think this book should be in every doctors and therapist office to share with their patients.

The book was a page turner I read it in two nights but I wanted to go back and do the little questions at the end of each chapter and dig deeper. The questions were helpful to provide the insite I needed to reflect on my own personal parenting journey. It couldn't have entered into my life at a better time.

Parenting is hard and the struggles are real but when you have someone guiding you with their words of wisdom the journey feels a little less isolating.

What are you waiting for head on over and order your copy today.

I ordered from Amazon.

I have been waiting a while for a great parenting book from someone who gets it.

Kids make you crazy 😜 I do think I already lost my mind.
There is a bit at the end about parents who have special needs children.
I think all of my mommy friends need to read this book

About Brenda Yoder

 

https://smile.amazon.com/MA-Brenda-L.-Yoder/e/B075833RKT/ref=ntt_dp_epwbk_0

 

 

One year devotional with 52 coloring pages.

 

Bella was excited to see the #coloring and #koolaid tea looks like it going to be a good one too.

Bella wanted to read the book

right away! you will want to as well. Fun coloring pages large font what's not to love.

 

loves coloring books if you have a coloring or devotional book you would like me to tell my readers

send an email to me and I'll get back to you

 

Susan Chamberlain Shipe

Give away has ended but feel free to purchase the book on Amazon

Susan M Shipe

 

 www.hopehearthome.com

amazon.com/author/susanshipe

 

Live full walk free-Cindy Bultima-launch team

Cindy Bultema is a popular Bible teacher, conference speaker, and blogger, but her number one ministry is being a wife and mom to her four kids. She loves to encourage other women and help them experience the fullness of life that Jesus offers. Previously, Cindy has worked with adolescent sex offenders, run a program for homeless teen moms, and led children s ministries.

I was privileged to be part of Cindy Bultima Book launch team and received a copy of her book Live full walk fee. Before the launch team I personally meet Cindy at a Speakup speakers conference

*I received an advanced reader copy in Pdf exchange for my honest review. I later received a hard cover copy of her book along with scripture cards.

Review:

If you are looking for a great book to help you read the 1st Corinthian this is it. I think it is a perfect for a young adult group and older. The book is a bible study based on 1st Corinthian and it is a journey on what life was like in Corinthians and how people lived. The scripture A-z cards are great to use to help memorize your favorite verse and the bible study was engaging and entertaining.
The book is also full of helpful advice for day to day living and applying the lessons learned. This Bible study is life-changing. Cindy Bultema has been through so many challenges in her life and has come out on the other side with freedom through Christ. I am adding it as the books that has help me see different ways we can find some comfort and avoid doing things that are self-destructive. I love how Cindy has a way with explaining and gives simple to understand details. Cindy Bultema dives into Paul’s letter to the ancient church of Corinth. With her passionate prose, she shows us how this Scripture is as relevant to Christian culture today as it was to the early church in Corinth. Her desire for women to live full, abundant lives is a message that jumps from the pages as she leads you on a journey to know truth, live truth, and share the truth of God’s love. I highly suggest you pick up the copy with the Dvd as you can see Cindy personality just dive right in and help teach us lessons from the bible in a fun l way that gets to the point of Pauls letter to the Corinthians.

 

Description of the book:

In this six-session Bible study, Cindy Bultema explores Paul’s first letter to the Corinthians and shows how believers today can navigate their way in a wayward and confused culture. She reveals how Paul wrote his letter to the Corinthians—the “Sin City” of its day—to help them cultivate holy lives not by their own strength but through the power of Jesus Christ. Touching on themes of identity, unity, purpose, and purity, this study will equip you to life for God in a sin-soaked world and handle each situation with grace.

The package I received from Cindy Bultma for being on her launch team.

To check out Cindy Bultima website check out the link below:

 

http://www.cindybultema.com/live-full-walk-free/

 

Waiting for Heaven-Launch team

I met an amazingly strong and beautiful woman in my small group during a Carol Kent’s speaker’s conference I attended in Grand Rapids, Michigan. Heather and I were in the same small group session we shared our very different difficult to share stories and bonded over tears, prayer and this book she wrote. I was asked to write a review and in exchanged I got a copy of her beautiful book waiting for Heaven.  It details her journey over the loss of her son Bowen from a kidney disorder.

I am sharing because some people born with 22q have kidney disorders. Myself I have kidney and gallstones but that is totally different from the disorder Heather's son had.  I suggest this book also because grief is hard to go through alone. I lost my sibling when he was 6 years old I could not imagine the pain of loosing a child. I really encourage all of my readers to buy a copy of heather's book

http://www.bowenshope.com/caring-resources.html

 Bowen hope was founded by Heather. 

I am sharing because I know many people in the 22q community have loss a child to 22q and Heather's foundation Bowen's hope offers resources and tools.

You can purchase her book here

Fear Fighting-Kelly balarie launch team

  Fighting fear moving from fearful to fearless

I am honored to serve on Kelly Balarie's fear fighting book launch team. This blog post is for a contest where I can meet with a publisher. Please vote if after reading this post you liked it.  I am writing my post off the chapter waiting while trembling. The chapter waiting while trembling really got at my heart strings as I was waiting for my daughter to get out of her dental surgery last week I was reminded of all the times I have had to wait while trembling. Trembling and waiting for gods answers is not easy but it was the challenge our family faced five years ago.  My family waited while fighting our fear. This is our story...

How do we fight fear? In order to fight fear we first must know what fear is to us. What is your greatest fear? Once you know your greatest fear then you can start taking steps towards fighting that fear.

My fear looks like the time…

Our family became homeless and had to live with a pastor from our church.  That day we arrived at our pastor’s home haunts me in my dreams even to this day. I know fear. Imagine having to rely on others for help to get the next meal for your family, help for a place to sleep. We were blessed to live in a camper for a year in the pastor’s back yard. We had just 500 a month in our pocket to live off of with a family of 4 to care for. Our family has Bella and I who have health related expenses which Medicaid covers for most of it when it comes to Bella not for myself.

 I know the power fear can take over the mind and soul it can cause the body to internalize and acidify and makes your body toxic. When facing fear people react in ways in order to preserve and people like me when faced with that kind of heart breaking fear of being unable to control anything in the environment of what going on it put me into fight or flight mode. I was so scared but mostly ashamed and felt like a burden.  

I am someone with PTSD called post-traumatic stress disorder and Anxiety disorder from having one traumatic experience after the next. The abuse I endured growing up, the medical diagnoses of my siblings having a rare genetic disorder one of my siblings passing away at just 6 years old and me outliving him. Having my own diagnoses and my daughter’s diagnoses of the same genetic disorder of my father and siblings. Fear has latched on and became my stronghold on my soul.  I was hospitalized a few times do to panic attacks that would not leave me alone and night mares that would haunt me I was still on my road to recovery when this happen. I had to do everything to keep myself pulled together to make sure I didn’t slide back into that pit of depression.

 As our family kept making steps forward something would happen and our family would end up taking 5 steps back for each step forward. SSI application was messed up instead of maxing out we ended up with 500 to live off of. My husband couldn’t find work at the time it took a year before he started working as an area sales rep. We finally got on our own feet and moved into a beautiful apartment in a wooded setting in a small town here in Michigan called Otsego. We live in a great school district and there is convinces like a party store, library walking distance both ways to the kids schools. A few years goes by and we are on our own making the bills and then my husband loses his job again and I fear that pit in my stomach fear that we won’t make it. Luckily my husband landed a job at a company where he now make triple what we started out living on our bills are paid on time and we have a bit left over. Sometimes there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

I can’t tell you how hard this post is to write because back then I was stressed and I was frustrated and I was embarrassed. I had those tears of pain and snot running down my face as I didn’t know what our family was going to do to get out of the mess we got in. 

I often am asked how we did it. What made us make it? While we almost didn’t? We just kept pressing forward and leaning on friends as family couldn’t help out.

Even when at times I didn’t realize what it was that made us make it I can say there is that eternal energy that is undeniable because of that the still small voice that GPS within myself that made have a spark to fill out apartment applications. The challenges our family faced during those years without the energy of spirit connecting us to our pastor we would not be as far along as we are today if it wasn’t for that energy of spirit that connected us to one another.
Before we met the pastor and her family,
 I had to go by blind faith. Being a family who was homeless living in a camper in a stranger’s back yard to having our own two bedroom apartment was a journey I didn't think we would ever face and overcome.

  It don’t matter how far you might rise at some point your bound to fall and when I did I prayed, yelled , I often was found with the mercy cry the pain in your stomach and head sniffling snot cry’s to God. At one point I didn’t see any hope, I had no self-compassion and my faith kept sliding back and forth. I kept pressing on and leaned on my faith even though it was small as a mustard seed.  
I had fallen and failed more times than I can count and I was turning 30. I am 33 now with a different perspective.   I have a driven obsessive personality but that was the year I was driven into deep depression. Obsessively I couldn’t get out of my rut. I would talk my own way out of things and try to hide. I stopped calling my friends I simply stopped and focused on healing my mind and body. I was having stomach pains that later got diagnosed a gasteroparises beginning to discover multiple health issues of my own on top of the rare genetic disorder I have. I started to blog to work on my own inner healing as I have healed I have made connections with some others who were in similar places our family was in looking for advice and a guiding light to show them the way.  Now I help others find hope where I was hopeless. Fighting fear head on with others is now something that my husband and I find ourselfs pulled to and we do so with pride because who we were and where we were then is so far along from where we had been. Both my husband and I have grown as people and as a couple and I need these reflections sometimes more then I like to admit because I still face anxiety issues.

Our income went from 500 a month after three months of fighting with SSI our income went up.
The shame and guilt that ate at my soul are now gone, we are even bought a new to us car. We have a small two bedroom apartment we have maintain for 5 years we just renewed our least for another year this last week.  Our rent is always paid on time and we always have food in our cupboards. Now we just manage and stay afloat until I can start working too.

My husband and I found a passion and ministry helping other parents and people who have been where we were. 5 years ago I wouldn’t think I would be able to say we have our own place we got rejected from the projects and our rental applications were denied but when we went to Christian neighbors we found a lady who helped us fill out forms and pointed us in the right direction when she helped us get appointment to meet with the rental manager.

Spirit lead God connections helped get us out of the poverty we were facing. We are no longer on food stamps we don't qualify based off our income and SSI is always jumping down randomly as my husband makes more money. I guess you know you made it when you don't qualify for food stamps.

I hope this will allow you to find comfort, hope and compassion towards anyone who has faced fear or facing poverty not everyone wants to be put there and it’s time to stand up and step out in faith to help one another however we can even if we don’t have anything to give sometimes a little time and faith of a muster seed is all that is needed.

What am I doing to help in order to make sure we don’t get to that spot of poverty again? I am taking small steps of self-care, writing, and simply trying to enjoy the smaller moments in life so that I can be ready for when the larger scary moments show up.  When we have coping skills we can face anything and having lived this experience

I am suggesting to read Kelly Balaries book because:

 

  • Kelly Balaries book has questions for self-reflection I am honored to serve on Kelly Balaries Fear fighting launch team for her new book called fear fighting. It is officially on sale today to help understand and face your fears head on. 
  • The Devil
  • Control
  • People Pleasing
  • Worrying
  • Comparison and Competition
  • Waiting While Trembling
  • Rejection and Opposition
  • The Past

·          #FearFightingbook

·         Please vote for my post if you liked and enjoyed it. I am entering this post for a contest to meet with a publisher.

What to know more about Kelly Balarie click here

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